When You Have Not Yet Broken Through the Sky of Emotions in Love, the Eyes Work Harder Than the Mind
On Friday, November 7, 2025, around 6:30 p.m., I had a phone call with my dear brother in faith, a skilled builder and craftsman, but also a devoted servant of God committed to guiding young people toward knowing Him and sparking spiritual revival.
As we spoke, he shared his story with me, saying, “When someone falls in love for the first time, they release all their emotions toward the one they love, and that makes their eyes work harder than their thoughts.”
I listened attentively as he continued, “In my first experience of love, I realized that I was standing on the mountain of emotions rather than on the mountain of reflection. That taught me that if you have not yet broken through the sky of emotions in love through prayer, you end up seeing only what is visible, instead of thinking about what is unseen.”
He concluded by telling me, “When you meet someone who seems fit to be your wife or husband, the next step is to lay down your emotions and seek God in prayer to ask if that person is truly the right one. Yet you must also remember not to abandon the mountain of reflection. The mountain of emotions may reveal how much you would be hurt if that person leaves you, but the mountain of reflection will show you whether that person is truly right for you or not.”
Conclusion
Therefore, my brothers and sisters, as it is written: “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14), I chose to share this story not merely to recount my conversation with my brother, but to pass on the wisdom I gained that “Let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance.” (Proverbs 1:5).
I have learned that when seeking a life partner, it is unwise to invest emotions alone, for emotions only reveal what is visible. Instead, one must invest thought and prayer to perceive what lies beyond appearances. So then, “Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.” (Proverbs 19:20) and “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20).